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Tuesday, 25 May 2010

BLOG 107: Is the channel wider than the pond?

Europeans, like some Americans, drive on the right side of the road, except in England, where they drive on both sides of the road; Italy, where they drive on the sidewalk; and France, where if necessary they will follow you right into the hotel lobby.” Dave Barry American Humourist

My American friends insist on saying when they are over that they “are in Europe”. That statement always takes my breath away – especially when they say that when they are guests in my home. Thing is I live in ENGLAND. Yup one fourth of an island ensemble which lies 22 miles of the coast of France. And to us, EUROPE starts there… it always takes us by surprise to be thought of as one of them.

But I guess, like it or not our continental postcode is EUROPE.

Maybe because we live on this little island surrounded by water, but to us it’s easy to forget that to the rest of the world we are just a bit of Europe.

Certainly to my American visitors, European is what we are… we have some very different ways from what they are used to. For a start you’d never catch us talking to flags or curtsying to elected officials. Plus we do like a good moan about our country, and use our developed sense of irony at every possible opportunity. We don’t fear acknowledging our state, Gods, figureheads and culture sometimes gets things terribly wrong. We like to say so… and often… and don’t believe this makes us unpatriotic. We have a European attitude to community responsibility - conversely revelling in the upkeep of an aristocracy while grudgingly feeling a responsibility to keep the under classes out of the worst examples of poverty. We use our PAYE taxes to support a social and health system that is the envy of the world (though we moan about the inherent flaws and cost). We spend our cash at sporting and social events (and get giddy and gossipy when we catch sight of even a minor Royal at the same). My American visitors seem to think this is all they need to state that they ain’t in Kansas no more and they are certainly in Europe.

Pah! Okay, I give them the fact that our continental postal address is Europe, but I really do think my lovely guests should take a better look at where they are. This little island is separated from Europe by more things than just water!

Now before I go much further I must state that I am pro European. I do wish the United Kingdoms of Great Britain and Northern Ireland (as is our proper monica) were a bit more involved in Europe culturally. But we’re not. And I’m a pragmatist. So there we are. It is what it is. (Anyone who does not believe me it’s the Eurovision Song Contest this Saturday… wait and see how our display of contempt for all things pan-European works out for us!...AGAIN)

I can’t speak for the other Kingdoms (Wales, Scotland and Northern Ireland) as though I have frequent visits to all three I have never resided in any of them. However for England… I have almost half a century of experience of living in different places about the land so I think I can point out some differences between us and them over the channel.

The English are said to be distinctive mainly for our observance of politeness, self-discipline and especially noted for our dry ironic sense of humour. I’d have to say I agree with that. England is distinctive not so much for its landscape (which can be duplicated in other lands) but for how things are done. And how my American friends failed to notice that they do things differently here from ‘on the continent’ leaves me breathless.

You’d pretty quickly know that you are in England because we form orderly queues without being told to and allow the person who got there first to be tended to first. (Try that on the mainland and see how far that’d get you).

In Europe personal space is approximately 2inches circumference of a person:

We have extended the zone to 7 inches and it can only be entered by mutual agreement.

In Europe you greet people with a kiss(or multiple kisses if further south):

We only kiss people who are close friends and relatives. Instead, when you are first introduced to someone, shake their right hand with your own right hand.

In Europe "Excuse Me" means please forgive me:

We use it if someone is blocking your way and you would like them to move, say excuse me and they will shift out of your way.

In Europe "Thank you" is said after assistance is given:

We consider it very good manners to say "thank you". It is considered rude if you don't, so is said often. There are few nations that say 'thank you' as much as England. It is said a lot – even when no assistance is given.

In Europe you say sorry as an apology:

We just like saying sorry (see note on Thank you) and say it all the time. IE: If you accidentally bump into someone, say 'sorry'. They probably will too, even if it was your fault! This is a habit and can be seen as very amusing by an 'outsider' but it’s our culture so please observe it.

In Europe only men open doors for other people

We hold open the door for each other regardless of gender. It depends on who goes through the door first. (see note on queuing)

In Europe people do expect to be introduced so that people can be henceforth referred to by name:

We’re particularly bad at remembering names and routinely refer to people as dear, dearie, flower, love, chick, chuck, me duck, me duckie, mate, guv, son, ma'am, madam, missus, sir, or treacle, according to your sex, age and location. (Personally I say Babycakes A LOT!)

In Europe congratulations are often communicated by gestures such as backslapping and hugging .

We only allow this among close friends. (see note on personal space)

In Europe men take their hat off when they go indoors

We still find it impolite for men to wear hats indoors especially in churches. BUT it is becoming more common to see men wearing hats indoors. However, this is still seen as being impolite, especially to the older generations.

In Europe it is de rigour to talk loudly in public:

We only do so when drunk (use public transport after 11pm for illustration)

In Europe it is customary to pay at the end of an evening in a bar:

We pay for drinks as you order them

In Europe they drive on the right side of the road

We drive on the left side of the road

In Europe it is unremarkable to keep looking at someone who has caught your attention:

We think it is impolite to stare at anyone in public and take it as a challenge to bare knuckle fighting.

In Europe you may ask a lady her age

We considered impolite to ask any lady her age.

In Europe it is a sign of interest to ask personal or intimate questions:

We like our privacy. It is impertinent to ask questions such as "How much money do you earn?" "How much do you weigh?" or "Why aren't you married?".

In Europe it is considered unremarkable to pick your nose in public:

We are disgusted by this. If your nostrils need de-bugging, use a handkerchief.

In Europe flux from cleared passages may be spat in public places:

We consider spitting in the street is considered to be very bad mannered.

In Europe meals eaten continental style, with fork in the left hand and the knife in the right are conducted with some animation:

Whilst we do also eat continental style we find it impolite speak with your mouth full of food and there is no occasion when eating off a knife when having a meal is acceptable.

In Europe it is a sign of satisfaction to burp after eating or drinking:

We feel that if you can not stop a burp from bursting out, then cover your mouth with your hand and say 'excuse me' afterwards.

In Europe they do not have a problem with the passing of wind in public

We go somewhere private and let it out. (And if you accidentally pass wind in 'polite company' you would never, ever draw attention to the incident by apologising. Basically the advice is say 'excuse me' for mouth burps, ignore bottom burps.)

Thing is if I were writing out my address like a child it would say

Kent

England

UK

Europe

The World

But I’m not a child… and nor are my guests! England, UK is without a doubt geographically in the continent of Europe. But culturally it’s no where near. Although only 22 miles apart at the closet point, centuries of isolation from what the 50 nations with the 230 different tongues got up to over there have played out. It is odd that on many cultural issues that seems a wider distance than the many between us and them over the Atlantic.

That said, how on earth could my guests have thought for one moment that by flying from Kansas to Heathrow that they coming to EUROPE???

Like I said …. Breathless!

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1 comment:

  1. Very funny post Jax. Well done (again)!
    BUT I wish to point out that while I agree that standing in line, not talking personal, not being big on physical contact and hiding farts are very English attributes that makes you separate from your European neighbors TRUE.. but I can't see how that gives you something in common with us over the pond. LOL!!!

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